Conservative Country Boys & the False Narratives of Relationships

 

There's a new astrology transit that's doing a total 360 on how I view relationships and love. It is Taurus in Chiron in my 7th house opposing my natal Pluto in Scorpio in the 1st. What does this mean? It basically means I'm experiencing a healing shift and destroying false narratives I've gathered over the years.

I would love to share a poem and a quick little essay I wrote while doing a deep dive on a certain friends with benefits situation I am currently in. This friends with benefits situation is the most satisfying relationship I've ever had with someone. My special friend's actions are louder than actual words. Nothing a traditional romantic relationship has ever been like for me. And a part of that is my natal Chiron in Gemini in the 8th house of intimacy.

I was so scared of being vulnerable. I believed in all the relationship tropes in romantic comedies and Disney movies. I also listened to modern dating advice from so-called "experts". When, in reality, relationships are a special experience that labels alone cannot box. They are fluid. They need room to breathe in order to grow. 

This does not mean abandoning your standards. It just means being open-minded instead of so closed off and isolated.

Without further ado, here are some writings I am really proud of.

"Sex equals love."

"Sex and love are two separate things."

"A relationship is only valid if it's romantic."

Those are some false narratives I grew up believing. And at almost 42, I've learned a genuine relationship isn't about labels themselves. Rather, they are about how they make you feel. It isn't about who texts first. It's about who shows up when you're at your lowest and highest. In the end, it's about who has your back, even when you aren't in the same room.

A relationship is a friendship built on open communication, boundaries, respect, and trust. It doesn't need a certificate or diamonds. It just needs to be pure.

This doesn't need to mean abandoning your standards. And it also doesn't mean that relationships are your forever and always. No man is an island, and we as humans crave connection. Each connection in our lives forms our essential being. From our relationships with our parents and siblings, to the first human friend we ever had.

And now I would like to share with you a poem, based on my experience with dating conservative men and being a liberal, feminist woman.

Conservative Boys By: Samantha Jean Tate

Those conservative country boys.

The liberal woman does not need to be afraid.

He's handy with a drill,

Can fix your computer.

He doesn't want to just breed you.

He wants the best for you.

He lets you shine.

He may not have a lot to say,

But you know he loves you,

When his actions speak louder.

There are rotten apples in every bunch.

But I love a good, masculine man

Who is secure in his masculinity.